Perspectives.
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i am not me.
One of the things about being a mother, partner and a contributing member of society is that it’s easy to lose yourself behind each of those titles. When my birthday came around this year, few noticed. People I consider friends went the whole day without acknowledgement. When my daughter turned 13 a month later, though,… Continue reading
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a walking menace.
I feel sorry for the girl I was all those years ago. She was misguided, misunderstood—an embarrassment, really. No one taught her any better one way or the other how to be kind, or how to act decent. Everything I learned, I learned the hard way. I had to fall flat on my face and… Continue reading
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on mothering, and learning how to find myself.
It’s another cold day here on the Shoreline. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t miss the summertime, but I welcome the billowing winds, the sparkling snowdrifts and the chill in the air over the raw, wet rainfall of a mild winter any day. At least when it is cold and dry out, I… Continue reading
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trying not to take it for granted.
It’s so easy to be hard on ourselves in the present tense. Sometimes we lose sight of exactly how far we’ve come. I’ve been a mother for almost thirteen years, which I realize is something I often take for granted. Growing up, I watched my mom struggle as a teen mom, and heard stories of… Continue reading
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why should we get to decide what is fair?
I used to think about it all the time: “Why me?” It didn’t make any sense to me why some of us are randomly born into bad situations while others grow up to lead thriving lives. It bothered me so much that I couldn’t figure it out. As a teen, I would grimace at the… Continue reading
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the courage to change.
As we enter 2026, it’s typical that millions of people will resolve to reach new goals, change their habits, and alter their lifestyle to kick off the new year. Starting over with a “clean slate” that immediately succeeds the chaos and disorganization that many experience around the holidays is very tempting, and feels like a… Continue reading
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making time.
We are all going to die someday soon, so let’s just live right now. Continue reading
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Regaining our sense of self.
It is a gift to be certain about something in today’s world. Humans are more distracted and stressed out than ever before (Piao et. al, 2024) especially with the amount of inputs most of us are processing on a daily basis. Most of us navigate life in a reactive manner, relying on bite-sized pieces of… Continue reading
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the disguise.
What are we so afraid of? Are we really so afraid to accept love from one another? Or to put the best of ourselves out there for others to see? What kind of sick, twisted entitled “armor” do we earn from refusing connection and joy at the door? The hardest part is that none of… Continue reading
living in defiance. 